Hello everyone,
So for context me and my girlfriend have been together for about one and a half year and honestly everything’s was going pretty good. The start was amazing but nowadays we just get on videocall everyday and we don’t even talk most of the time, she is doing her thing and I do mine. That isn’t that much of a deal but that added with the fact that most of the time I tell her stuff (general stuff, science stuff I like) and she’s just on TikTok basically paying 0 attention to what I say besides saying “that’s cool baby” or whatever stock answer, and like idk it just feels like what I say has no relevance at all to an interaction between us and I just expect her to maybe ask some follow up questions even if it’s just acted or whatever.
Now let’s talk about intimacy, in one year and a half we’ve done a lot of things, the only thing we haven’t done is well, actual penetration. But besides that we’ve done everything, the only problem is that I have done everything to her. It took her basically one year and a half to finally be comfortable to do something to me with her hands, and it just doesn’t make sense. She always tells me that she never feels like it’s the time or whatever but it somehow always is on for me to do things to her?
Last time she was in my home for example she wanted to masturbate me for example but she was just sitting there while doing it, staring at it, no kisses to excite me, caressing no nothing she was just doing it. Not saying that she doesn’t enjoy it, but it just always feels robotic.
I’ve talked to her about this issue and we always end up with her saying “Ok and what do you want me to do” which I think is unfair because I comment the issue so we can BOTH solve it, not for me to tell her what she needs to do. I’ve thought about breaking up but I just can’t because I genuinely love her, and I’m not perfect either but I really give her my best and pay attention to her in every way that I can. And I don’t know what to do, because again, she is just my sweet girl and I love her and just think she’s amazing all around but this type of “small” incompabilities are truly killing me to the point that I feel like I’m wasting my time, but idk if this is just something that happens with relationships and I’m being stupid. She’s basically my first serious relationship.
TL;DR
Gf doesn’t pay attention to me in calls or intimacy, but acts normal when we are around. This action is making me doubt a lot of stuff about my relationship and I don’t know what to do.
Any advice?