Bit of background: I (31F) got out of a 10+ year long abusive relationship early last year. (Relevant because I am very inexperienced with dating, bf has had a lot of experience.) I have since met a man who I am absolutely crazy for. He is kind, safe, we have similar interests, and the sex is… addicting. He is very skilled, giving, and I had never orgasmed with a partner before this. We have been together about 10 months and living together about 3.
We have had sex almost daily during our time together as a couple. I have a very high sex drive; and until recently I thought he did too. Sometimes multiple times per day, or doing it ALL DAY off and on, literally. But the past month, it has been slowly trickling down. I want it constantly, but he is starting to slow down with it. I know that eventually sex gets slower with time in all relationships. In my last relationship though, the sex drive only died on my part and not until 1.5-2 years in. In this new relationship, his sex drive is lowering but mine is going full strength. And I feel it’s so early in our time together for it to be slowing. Nothing else besides this has changed at all, we are super happy.
I have never pressured him to have sex and completely am calm/understanding when he doesn’t want to. I haven’t really brought this up to him, because I’m worried about him feeling hurt, or just doing it because he wants me to be happy. I have trauma from my last relationship where *I* felt pressured and am worried about doing the same thing. But it’s seriously messing up my mental health. I’ve only gone three days this week without it, but I am ovulating and insatiably horny. It’s so bad to where it’s effecting my mental health and he is noticing. How do I talk to him about this without pressuring him, making him feel like he needs to preform, etc?