I'm a M45 and my wife is F52. I always knew when we got married that we would go through different lifecycles, but perimenopause is the absolute pits.
It's the morning of NY day and we had a party at our house. I was going for any type of genuine shared affection, but it seems like we have got the absolute room mate phase.
Last year we had sex 5 times. Any advance from me was rebuffed with the "I don't feel well", " I'm too tired" " we will do it in the morning" but nothing ever comes.
I used to get the "is that all you think about" but it's gotten to the worst it's ever been.
We have previously been to counselling but that really did f all. We had a real purple patch year before last where we really connected but now it's worse than its ever been.
I have had a really hard year last year with work but while I get all the friendship. I don't get the partner who actually wants me. I love my family. And I want to fix it. I just don't know what to do.