We have been together for 5 months.
Throughout the relationship:I have always been the giving side. I have never once asked her to pay.
Even when I traveled to her country to visit her, i paid for everything.I never complained about money or kept score. Money not problem.
Lets start.
“Please tell me the truth from an objective, outside perspective. This is very important to me.”
My girlfriend’s birthday was on Monday. I wanted to surprise her, so I contacted one of her friends to ask for ideas and help. This is the conversation we had.
Me: Hi, how are you?I hope everything is well.
On Monday it’s my girlfriend’s birthday, and I want to surprise her. I need your help and some ideas. Are you available?
Her friend: Hi. I’m working this day. But what are you suggesting?
Me:You know her well. What does she like the most?
Her friend:She has outgrown surprises and romance.She likes traveling, and for that she need money.An adult woman only needs money.
I can send you her card number.
Me:Money is not a surprise. Let’s close the topic.
Thanks anyway. Have a good evening.
Her friend: Surprises are your thing. Do whatever you feel is right.We live in the real world.
Me:Then keep living in your real world.
Her friend: Dont be rude.
There is an important detail really bothered me.
When i sent my first message, she replied in 2 minutes.
When I asked specifically about ideas for a birthday surprise, she saw the message but replied about 15 minutes later.
During that time gap, I started to feel uncomfortable and suspicious.
I thought that she might have contacted my girlfriend and that they discussed or planned the response together.
Because of that, I got upset.
After reading the reply about money, I became very angry and felt like:
I was being used
Everything was reduced to money
Out of anger and frustration, I took screenshots of the conversation and sent them to my girlfriend.
After sending her the screenshots of the conversation with her friend, we had a very short exchange.
Shortly after this, I decided to block both, my girlfriend and her friend on all platforms, because her responses did not feel sincere to me.
Me:So, are you that kind of woman?
My girlfriend:I don’t understand.
My girlfriend: What does this have to do with me?
My girlfriend:Why are you involving me in this?
Me:F*ck off. You are a cheap b1tch.
“Please tell me the truth from an objective, outside perspective. This is very important to me.”