Anyone have experience supporting a friend who is deciding to stay with her spouse after an affair?
They are in therapy separately and together. From what she shares he is genuinely doing hard work and genuinely remorseful. They have been through a significant level of loss and grief after a string of significant hardships, so while it doesn’t cut the husband of accountability it does explain some context.
I am trying to reserve judgement and just support her. Anyone have experience with this?
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My sister experienced a hair of a drunk incident/infidelity moment. He’d been in our lives for many years at the time, but the hatred from me was probably colder than she’s ever been capable of. The joke is she’s my little, big sister. I just listened, validated, and reminded her to keep talking about it, and sharing every single angry, sad, betrayed, etc. feeling with him, and that I’m always there to chat. They are approaching just about 18 years together I think.
I’ve showed up and held another friend, talked some shit, and found the information she was looking for about the other person for a friend. I kept her secret when she cheated on him too.