Greetings everyone I’m a 40 years (M)old black back into dating after a four year break I’m active athletic and comfortable in my own skin so far I’ve been on three dates with women aged 44 46 and 52
Each date followed the same pattern a really nice first meeting easy conversation good laughs and a relaxed vibe We met for coffee or drinks talked about life travel work and fitness and there was clear mutual interest nothing awkward nothing forced it all felt natural
After the dates though things shift I start getting texts like you might leave you’re out of my league or I’m too nervous I want to be clear this isn’t about blaming the women they were all interesting attractive and kind That’s why I’m trying to understand the pattern rather than point fingers
I’d genuinely like to hear your opinions on why this keeps happening after what feels like a good first date.
Also an honest question do women generally prefer a guy who works at a gym and is clearly very fit or someone who doesn’t go to the gym regularly Could that perception be affecting how I’m being seen