My wife and I have been living together for about 2.5 years and married for 1 year. I’m American, she’s Japanese, and we live in Japan.
Lately I’ve started noticing that our communication styles are very different. I tend to share things about my day. What I learned, something I’m excited about, or stories about what friends back home are doing. For me, that kind of sharing feels like a normal way to connect.
But when I do this, she rarely seems interested. The responses are usually very short, neutral, or the conversation just kind of dies. It doesn’t feel like curiosity or engagement is there, and over time it’s made me feel like what I’m sharing doesn’t really matter. But then on the other hand it's like what is there to talk about it?
I’m not saying she’s doing anything wrong. I’m genuinely wondering if this is a cultural difference, a personality difference, or just how she communicates. But it’s left me questioning whether I should just stop sharing these kinds of things altogether, since they don’t seem to go anywhere anyway.
Has anyone else experienced this kind of disconnect in communication, especially in intercultural marriages?
Did you adjust how much you share, or find a way to bridge that gap?
I’d really appreciate hearing other perspectives.