Hi friends <3 So I recently started seeing this guy about 3-4 weeks ago. On paper, he should be a perfect candidate for me. He’s emotionally available, has his own place, stable, good job, etc. He’s also very kind, curious, accommodating, thoughtful, witty, and chill! He’s just an all-around cool guy.
However, I don’t know if I like him…
I am currently healing from an anxious attachment style. I have a history of dating emotionally unavailable and avoidant people. So I can’t tell if it’s me in a new dynamic that I’m not use to just vibing in and not chasing or if I don’t like him. I don’t feel that excitement or strong desire I’m use to. He’s consistent and open so maybe I don’t feel that desire because it’s being given to me without working for it? Idk.
I should also mention my attraction to him isn’t the strongest. When matching with him I didn’t think he was the cutest but thought he could just be not photogenic. However, sometimes I do think he’s kinda cute and sometimes I don’t. I find him most attractive when we are just sitting in silence and I feel like I don’t have to perform. I like cuddling him but I do not love kissing him. I’m trying not to let something so shallow get in the way of something that might be good for me with time.
How do I know if I’m adjusting to a new love dynamic and should give it time or if I really don’t like him?
NOT ASKING FOR ANYONE TO DECIDE FOR ME JUST WONDERING HOW OTHER PEOPLE HAVE NAVIGATED ADJUSTMENT VS LACK OF INTEREST