I live in a foreign country for work. I recently joined a baby and me class and one woman very quickly introduced herself and asked if it was our first time. Even after the class she immediately asked if I wanted to join her and her friends at the park afterwards and I was estatic! My son and I had such a great time playing with new kids/me making new mom friends. I did notice how the original mom who invited me seem to suddenly lose interest in me during the playdate. Like she wasn't rude or anything but stopped initiating conversation and her voice started turning into that valley girl vocal fry "ohh that's souuu kewlll…" Kinda like filler.
Several classes after that were raining so they two moms would sit in the main lounging area after class and started sharing snacks with each other. My son started playing with their kids and didn't even offer him a snack (I know we are not obligated to other people's food but I always always share snacks or at least offer out of politeness) eventually I noticed that they didn't really talk to me unless I spoke to them. They kind of looked at me like "why are you still here". I don't know why I'm so hurt. I guess I expected 40 something women to be a bit more… Less high school cliquey? More "expat community solidarity"? biggest shock was the sudden whiplash being overly interested in inviting me to join them to now a cold politeness.
I don't think I said anything wrong. I'm not neruospicy but wouldn't be surprised if I were. But growing up I always always told I "looked like a bitch" or seemed stuck up (then would say how nice I ended up being once they got to know me) so as an adult I became such a people pleaser and overly apologizing for every little thing to make up for it. So even after changing myself to be more approachable I still get rejected and I'm frustrated that I cant please everyone.
I just moved to this new country ihis past summer and only have one good friend. They are also well liked by everyone and they already have a steady social life despite moving here around the same time as me. I'm embarrassed that I still don't really have any friends outside of her. I don't really no what advice I'm looking for. Maybe solidarity to reassurance or tips.