I'm 21f.
Still going to school (which I don't even remember most of the things ive already learned and I feel horrible and guilty about that). I'm very sheltered. Still learning how to drive. Also very shy and introverted.
There are a few rare instances where some people where we initially started as friends have liked me before or confessed to me, but I always get scared. I always think they should find someone who is physically, intellectually, and mentally better. Also I feel a bit guilty feeling things for anyone or the fact that people do like me, because they don't know my background or family. Also because I don't know what my parents would think. Plus my family have called me names before for having a boyfriend in high school (Haven't had one ever since due to my parents becoming furious and other things).
I don't know. I feel stupid as well. Also I feel like people will abandon me if they get to know and see more sides of me.
Also I don't even make eye contact with people or even try to speak normally with other students in class or I don't even know how to approach dating apps.
I also mostly like solitary activities like gaming, art, etc. I've had a crush on a friend before because we connected through games and we we're generally just detached from another yet close? They were mean to me but they were also really practical and helpful and were unpredictable in showing kindness but on rare occasions they did. Though that whole thing is out of the picture (due to other reasons).
Should I even try? Sometimes it does make me wonder if i'll end up alone. My actions also causes me to not have many friends either.
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girl yes you should still date if you want to. you’re not a side quest in someone else’s story just cuz you’re figuring stuff out. literally everyone is. you don’t need to be fully healed or perfect to be loved, you just need to be human. and you already are, painfully and beautifully so.
I don’t like the way you talk about yourself. There is no need to put ourselves down there are plenty of bad people who will do that for us. Before you can be loved you gotta know you are worthy of love which I guarantee you are. I don’t know what your relationship is with your parents but you are an adult now. Your parents opinion of your partners matter only as much as you let it. I would suggest being kind to yourself and be comfortable with yourself. If you want to improve in certain areas then I would suggest you work to do that. Also surround yourself with people who make you comfortable and who are kind. It’s a great booster! You’ll be alright, there is no rush or expectation outside of what you want for yourself.
Don’t worry about your parents or thinking people should do better than you. Date who you want, when you want
If people have confessed to you, then they were interested and they thought that you do have qualities that stand out, which is probably why they confessed in the first place. And it’s easier said than done, but family’s judgments about a partner should just be discarded unless the partner is actually really bad for you and your family is justifiably concerned. Also, it’s socially acceptable for women to be shy, quiet, and introverted so I wouldn’t worry about that too much. As a guy, that can be a death sentence but it’s not so bad for women.