My 38M husband lied to me the other day about his location. We got into a very small argument one morning and he was annoyed because I wasn’t acting like myself – I’m pregnant and not feeling well. Anyways. We were supposed to take his Mom out for dinner and I didn’t end up going with him because I wasn’t feeling well enough to.
He ended up leaving the house to take her and after about 3 hours I wondered if they were done and when he’d be coming back home so I could mentally prepare myself. I knew he was annoyed with me and he never texted me while he was out, so I checked his location that’s always on just to see if he was headed home yet. I saw his car go from the restaurant they went to, back to his parents home. And then from his parents home to downtown to some lounge. He spent another like 2.5 hours there. After about 2.5 hours (almost 6 hours gone in total), I decided to text him. I asked him if he was still with his Mom, he said yes. Meanwhile his current location (which was live) said he was at a lounge downtown. It’s not a seedy lounge and I don’t think he was doing anything shady, but it’s a place he goes with his friends often. I don’t care that he went…
I care that when I asked him if he was with his mom at her house; he lied and said yes. I asked him again “so you’re at your parents”?
He said “yea.” So then I told him “I’m actually texting your Mom to ask her how dinner was”. And I did just that, she responded right away and said it was great and she missed me and was sorry I wasn’t feeling well enough to go. I asked her if he was coming home soon since he wasn’t responding to my texts. She never responded.
After almost a whole hour of thinking about this and being mad, I caved and sent him a screenshot of his LIVE location showing him at a lounge. He didn’t respond for about 5 minutes. But when he did respond, he responded with hostility and was livid that I was “accusing him” of not being where he said he was. Seconds later, his Mom responds and says “yes he’s with me and he’s leaving shortly”.
He stayed at the lounge for maybe about an hour or more and then his next location showed up at his best friends house, also downtown. Eventually it went from downtown; back towards his parents place; and then eventually home, where I had his pajamas and toothbrush waiting outside our bedroom door because he was going to be sleeping on the couch.
I truly didn’t feel well enough to argue with him but the next day he insisted we talked about it, and every day since that point he has furiously denied that he lied (even though his location has always been accurate 😂💀) and he “swore on his life” that I’m crazy and that he got hacked.
Since I’m “so crazy”, I actually checked his phone to see his messages with his Mom. And funny enough, all texts were deleted since the day after the incident; which means he deleted his texts with his Mom from that night and all the texts before the day after.
It’s a really scary and unsettling feeling to be carrying the baby of someone that you don’t fully trust, especially when you never really wanted kids to begin with. I have always trusted him up until this point but this is extremely suspicious to me and he’s looked me in my eye and laughed at me about me telling him I know he’s lying.
I just want to know what someone else would do.