I met this girl about 4 months ago and we started dating about 1 month ago. Everything has been fine so far however there are some things I’m slightly unsavoury about since this is my first relationship since I finished school. I love going out with this girl but I hate that almost every time we go on a date she’ll bring up things that made her mad or made her feel like she isn’t loved during the week where we won’t see each other, I’ll say some stupid joke sometimes pertaining her mostly not and I’ll always recognize and apologize over my mistake and try to find reason or a solution but at the start of each date she’ll still bring it up after we try and remedy the situation which kills the vibe of the first half of the date. I’ll go out of my way to occasionally bring her bbt from her favourite place, I’ll buy flowers for her occasionally too, I pay for everything which is to be expected since I’m a guy I guess, and I’ll constantly text her but miss a text for awhile since I’m busy with errands or I passed out taking a nap. I know she never ask me to do any of these things however I wish she would pull her weight in the relationship a bit. She says that she doesn’t feel loved but honestly I feel like I throw so much time and effort into her to get nothing back. To my knowledge she has a similar paying job so she can afford to pay for a dinner every once in awhile or buy snacks for us when we’re at the theatre, honestly she wouldn’t even need to but the thought that she would at least offer would be enough for me. I always have to initiate everything which I guess is the standard since I’m a guy but when I’m too tired or busy it’d be nice if she started texting me or thought up an idea for a date. We’re barely intimate which I could accept since I have been in a similar relationship in the past where we had zero intimacy since she was a survivor of a certain instance which I could respect, however with this current girl we’re just barely intimate enough and it drives me insane. I understand that taking care of someone’s needs doesn’t entitle you to have sex but before her I could just hook up with someone within a day where I wouldn’t be lured in with a good time without any of the pains of a failed sexual attempt. Honestly I still love her I just don’t wanna be a slave to her desire of having a man pay for her everything and then getting nothing in return or eventually the two of us have a marriage and it’s soulless since we’ll barely have intimacy. What do you guys think?
TL;DR: Should I leave and find someone I’m more compatible with that values me more? I already feel kinda shitty thinking that I want to leave solely based on our lack of intimacy.