Hey guys. I (19f) just attempted to lose my virginity to my partner, but we didn't get particularly far. They are quite well endowed and I've never even masturbated before (I don't really get turned on unless someone I'm really attracted to is actively touching me, I'm probably on the ace spectrum), so it makes sense that it would hurt. However, it hurt like a motherfucker and I had to tell them to stop after about 30 seconds of attempting PIV. I also bled for a couple days afterwards- not just spotting but a relatively large amount of blood that would drip down my legs. I was bleeding from the inside, too.
I just ordered the Kiwi toy that is supposed to help with relaxation and entry pain. I've never really had issues with tampons, so I don't think it's vaginismus. I'm just frustrated. It's taken me a long time to find someone I'm comfortable enough with to have sex, and now that I've crossed that threshold, of course there's now physical issues stopping it from happening.
Any recommendations or shared experiences would be helpful. Thanks in advance.