So I’m on Hinge, dating intentionally with marriage as the goal.

Lately, I’ve been talking to this guy, and honestly, he’s going all out calls first, texts all day, planning our dates, But I’m sticking to my boundaries: I’m not rushing anything, just enjoying getting to know him in person first.

It’s wild because he’s counting down the hours to see me, this evening, he’s expressing his feelings, and I can see he’s serious but I’m keeping my cool and letting him invest emotionally while I stay grounded.

I’m excited to finally meet him for the 1st time today too we’ve been talking for a week now, so it feels like the right time.

Wish me luck 🍀 🤞🏾

Will update 🙏🏽🤞🏾


12 comments

  1. Only a week and haven’t met yet and he’s doing all that? Seems a bit intense. Good idea to maintain your boundaries

  2. Be careful of needy love bombing…It’s a little overboard on his part since you haven’t even met yet. If for some reason you’re not “feeling the same” it’s going to be a difficult situation for you to say…I just don’t feel that into you!

  5. Be careful of love bombing and keep defending those borders. I am all for excitment and planing dates and being all romantic.. but not before i’ve met them in person.

  8. Hmmm. I’m not saying love bombing is bad but best to be cautious about impulses. Sometimes when you’re hungry and you haven’t had food for a long time, you eat excessively and when you’re full you don’t like the food anymore. I hope I’m wrong and you’ll be happy for a long time. 🤘🏻

  9. Some people can fall hard and fast, but then tend to fade at exactly the same rate. I personally now have a 3 month rule in dating. I do not make any long term decisions or plans because I’ve found I can be blind by the new interest and not see things that become more clear as the dating becomes, dare I say, routine with a woman.

  10. Hey! I’m also definitely trying to have a slower pace. It’s ok to let it be a slow burn. I’m someone who tends to move fast but sometimes, it depends on the other person too. Slow doesn’t mean no emotional attachment. Slow can mean steady and allows you to see all sides of them.

  11. Your pace is outta control already. How is he “going all out” and “planning all your dateS” when you haven’t met?

    I strongly believe if you meet someone online, the second time you meet is actually your real first date.

    The first time is so you can see if this person you connected with online is actually someone you’d like to go on a date with and they feel the same about you.

    I’m worried you’re building this guy up in your head and when you meet the real thing, he won’t be able to compete. Even if he is great.

    Save this excitement for date 2!

    All that said, I hope it does work and you have SO MUCH FUN tonight.

    Good luck ❤️

  12. Best of luck to you. Proceed with caution because it’s early & you’re just meeting him. You’re doing the right thing to keep it in perspective. Remember trust has to be earned. Let him prove that he’s not just love bombing you with the test of time…

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