I live in the city, my friend lives in a small town, about a 2 hour drive away. We text everyday, we FaceTime, we're basically very caught up with one another's lives. My friend loves visiting me in the city, where she gets to stay at my place for free. I have never asked for any compensation, neither do I expect it. I've also visited her a couple times, but not as often because I don't drive and there's no direct transit to her town, and there's also not much to do there anyway (most times, when she comes to my place it's because she has an event or concert in the city).
This has been going on for over a year now, and now she tries to visit every couple months. At this point, I don't think it's necessary for her to be here so often. The main issue is I live in a small one bedroom+one bathroom, and she tries to stay 3-4 nights to maximize her time here. I have never really liked sharing my space, I'm not crazy about sharing my bed, and I can't get comfortable in my own home (I like to sleep in on weekends, she gets up early). These stays also get very expensive because she loves all the food options we have in the city and always wants to order in or go out, sometimes more than once a day. I realize we can eat separately, but she expects us to go out to eat together, and more than once, she's asked me to order food on my phone but did not pay me back or offer to split?? Lastly, because of the nature of my work, I'm on a lot of calls/in meetings and I often work late into the night to meet deadlines. Because of this, weekends are practically sacred to me (hence, why I like to sleep in), so it really puts me out to have another person in my space. Sometimes, she'll arrive on a Friday, or try to stay until Monday, and I've had no choice but to *try* to get work done with her in the other room which is not easy for me.
I don't know what to do at this point. I think I've accommodated her for so long that she's used to this treatment and expects no less now. At the beginning, I was fine with it because I didn't think she would make a habit of it. I thought she would only visit 2-3 times a year, max. Considering how much we already talk on a daily basis, I don't think it's necessary to see each other in person this often, but maybe that's me. I'm writing this now because she's just asked if she can visit again in a few weeks and I'm at my wits' end. Despite all this, she's been a very supportive and caring friend so I feel bad for not wanting to see her more, but I've never had much of a social battery in the first place and man… I'm so tired. How do I ask her to cut down on the visits without hurting her feelings?