Hey guys,
I’m hoping to get some outside perspective because I feel quite conflicted and a bit guilty about my thoughts.
I’m currently getting to know someone where, in terms of values, lifestyle, and general outlook on life, everything matches really well. We have a good connection, he treats me kindly, and he’s genuinely interested in me. When we saw each other for the first time, I was a little disappointed at first because he didn't really look like his pictures and I also noticed that he isn’t exactly my physical type. Nevertheless, I hoped that my attraction would develop over time, because in the past I often found my partner more attractive over time and through getting to know their character, even if they weren't considered conventionally attractive so I didn't want to judge too quickly.
By now, we’ve had many dates, including several overnight stays (including being intimate). I enjoy cuddling and being close to him, but every time I look at his face, I have this thought – and I’m honestly ashamed to admit it – that I simply don’t find him attractive. It's not subtle, this feeling is very present, and I can't suppress it.
I feel really torn because on paper everything seems right, and he’s a good person. At the same time, I can’t force physical attraction or a romantic spark, no matter how much I wish I could.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Do you think attraction can still grow at this point, or am I just holding on because it “should” work? What would you do in my place?
Thank you for your honest thoughts.