I have one son and we get on well and I do my best to spoil him. We play regularly and while playing he does seem affectionate. He is obsessed with his mother and despite making minimum wage I've gone without to make sure they got as much time together as possible. He only wants his mother and doesn't want to share her.
Recently he's started announcing when I'm around or when he's out with his mother (we are together) that he hates me or sometimes that I'm not his dad (he's my spitting image that's not going to be a thing). He's ok on the rare occasions it's just the two of us.
It's possible she's not too nice about me behind my back and he picks up on this but she rightly points out that we have encouraged this by laughing at him being randomly mean to me when he was a toddler. Sometimes it was genuinely funny but it's becoming a more deep seated thing now and I'm worried it will be a lasting issue and obviously it can be pretty hurtful and demotivating since my life has become making money for them and not a lot else. They have an incredible bond but our family often feels like them two and i'm just there and he'd rather I wasn't. It is pretty Oedipal and I guess we've encouraged it for various reasons.
Is this going to be unhealthy for him growing up? How do I proceed to try and win him back. I have seriously let go since he was born. Can't afford the gym etc. Could it be as simple as that? Anyone dealt with a serious mommys boy?