Hello! I (29F) have feelings for my best friend (31M). We have been friends for almost 3 years now.
During our entire friendship we both have been single. A few days ago he met a girl and hooked up with hurt and I mentally crashed out about it and haven’t felt normal since. Should I tell him I have feelings for him? I don’t want it to be this love confession, I was thinking of telling him something on the lines of:
“When you told me about your date, it made me feel some type of way and made me realize that I may have feelings for you. I took the last couple days to reflect, and I’ve honestly been scared to say anything because you’re really important to me, and I don’t want to mess up what we have. Our friendship is my priority, and you’re one of my best friends. I just wanted to be open with you instead of keeping this in my head. You don’t have to have an answer tonight.”
It gets complicated because we do work together and have the same social circles. Everybody already thinks we’re dating anyway. I have tried moving on in silence but this situation has me genuinely feeling insane.