For the last couple of years, I (M24) honestly thought I didn’t have a girlfriend simply because I wasn’t meeting enough women. So this week I decided to stop overthinking and just start approaching women I find attractive and see what happens.
What threw me off was that basically every woman I noticed at the gym was already with a guy. And I don’t mean “some” — I mean every single one. The gym is pretty big, around 100 people at a time, and I didn’t see a single woman around my age who seemed to be there alone.
It kind of messed with my head. I started wondering if I’m late to the dating game. I’ve also heard people say that the “good ones” get taken early and stay taken, which didn’t exactly help.
Has anyone else felt this way? Am I just reading too much into one place/situation, or is dating actually like this now? How do you deal with these thoughts without getting bitter about it?