A week ago I matched but a woman and we got along pretty well and exchanged numbers. She still isn’t really yet to meet irl but we chat daily and share a lot of personal things and interests.
I don’t get the feeling she is for sure uninterested because she also ask me questions and ask how my day was, about my friends, my family and what I did today. However sometimes I just see she is online and she doesn’t reply directly. Sometimes even hours later. She does always reply eventually, but like I said she was online before and decided to not answer.
I just wait for her to respond and I am not going to spam her with new chats before she replies. Sometimes it freaks me out thinking she won’t reply anymore or ghost me but than I still see her reply coming in after a while.
What is the reason behind this? Am I doing something wrong? Why would she be online a lot of times and don’t answer my text? Is she uninterested? Is it strategy? Or is this just how women work?
TL;DR
Matched with a woman we are chatting for a week. She seems interested because she does ask questions but sometimes I just see her being online and she doesn’t reply for hours. Is she already uninterested?
4 comments
I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong. I think she is somewhat interested in you but also talking to other people. I recommend not checking at all to see if she is online. Send whatever message you’re going to send but then sign out of that app and go live your life.
If you’re chatting daily and working toward an in person meeting then it’s all chill. Treat it like email.
You gotta understand the disparity in dating app experience between women and men. She will most likely be bombarded pretty much non-stop every time she looks at the app. She could just be logging in to clear her notifications and then get back to you when she has more time to craft a reply.
Match her energy. It’s tempting to pursue hard but a relationship should be balanced.
You **have** to relax. Being online doesn’t mean she’s obligated to reply to you immediately. This isn’t game playing and doesn’t mean she’s not interested or anything else, it’s just humanity. I’ll get messages from my most beloved friends or family members when I technically *could* reply immediately, but I’m just not in the mood, don’t have time, whatever. She replies eventually.