Last night, my boyfriend [24M] and I [23F] had a disagreement, I wouldn’t even call it an argument, but we were both at a place where we were annoyed with the other and it was happening all over text. I felt as if our conversation over text was going poorly and just being miscommunicated so I decided it would be better if we just talk about it over the phone. Well, a huge pet peeve of mine, which my bf knows, is being left on read, and when I went to message him to ask if he’d rather call, I seen he had left me on read. I ask him “did you really leave me on read” and he says “yeah bc I didn’t really know what else to say” which, honestly, did not like that answer but it’s whatever, so then I just go to call him. He sends me straight to voicemail, which makes me even more annoyed because I personally feel like if we are going to be committed to one another/work on being in a relationship with each other I’m not asking for too much if I want to talk over the phone or not be left on read. These issues seem simple and silly but this is my first real relationship and we do get along great all of the time, we don’t even argue this was out first minor disagreement and when I had asked if he would just answer my call so we could talk, he told me he wasn’t going to lose sleep over it and it wasn’t a big deal that we call, but I expressed my anxiety had been worked up by the whole interaction and it would make me feel better if we just had a quick talk about via phone call and he agreed, well he said “yeah I mean we can call and talk real quick then” which then made me spiral a little bit more after that because I felt like I was forcing my boyfriend to talk to me, which I did not like. Am I being a drama queen or is there maybe an issue here that I should talk to my partner about? I already have decided to have a discussion about these types of things moving forward and what we can both do to avoid either of us feeling that way and make sure both of our needs our met, but sometimes it hard for me to decipher what to really have an issue with vs. what stupid little thing my mind will obsess over that realistically isn’t a huge deal.
TL;DR: Boyfriend left me on read and ignored my phone call after a minor disagreement but agreed to call once I asked