I was with my now ex boyfriend for 6 months. He is Jewish, and I am ethnically half Jewish, but raised catholic because my mom is Catholic, dad is Jewish. Throughout the relationship, we talked a lot about religion. He always said he would never let the religion come between us, as his dad was a little upset he was not with a Jewish girl. I knew this, and he always reassured me he’d never ask me to convert, and that religion should not come between a relationship since we were willing to work on it. Well, fast forward to now. He went away to Israel for 2 weeks for a trip over this winter break. Everything was completely fine between us, I was a bit worried going into the trip that he would come back wanting someone fully Jewish, and he always reassured me that this trip would not change anything between us and we would be fine and I was the only one he wanted. Up to 2 days ago everything was completely fine, he was calling me beautiful, we had a plan to see each other when he got home in a few days, and he even said he felt closer to me with this distance and it was the closest he ever felt to me. Well last night on New Year’s Eve, I could tell things were off when he woke up for the time change with his tone. I asked if everything was okay and he told me we needed to talk. This was 5 minutes before the ball dropped so I went into the new year a mess. To make a long story somewhat short we called this morning, he told me that he hadn’t been fully honest w me and his dads been calling him every week asking when he’ll end things w me for a full Jew. And he said he had an epiphany on this trip that he needs to marry fully Jewish. He also said there was “stuff going on at home” that he couldn’t tell me and even when I insisted he said he was sorry and he could not tell me. So we broke up. He couldn’t even wait to do it in person, it was over FaceTime and felt so rushed and out of complete blue. He fully did a 360 on me in less than a day. Everything was totally fine and I felt more in love than ever. Now I am confused, and feel so so used. Like we would sext a little bit on this trip, and I just feel used sexually and can’t stop imaging all our best times and imaging him w other people already. He was my best friend. This truly came out of nowhere, I thought we would be okay since he had reassured me so much about it. My worst fear happened. Has anyone gone thru this? I’m so broken. He was everything to me I feel so blindsided.
TLDR; I was with my boyfriend for 6 months and everything was perfect. He would open car doors, buy me flowers, he even moved in with me. We never fought. He went on a trip to Israel and abruptly ended things with me one day on ft because I am Catholic and he is Jewish. I had no prior warning and all reassurance.