I'm in a genuinely loving, healthy relationship with my boyfriend. He’s kind, supportive, and treats me really well. There’s nothing “wrong,” which is why I feel so awful even writing this. (We've been in a relationship for almost 8 months, he's 23 and i'm 20)
Lately, though, I’ve noticed a nagging thought I can’t shake. I’m a nursing student, so my days are full of critical thinking, problem-solving, and constantly learning. Sometimes when we talk, Sometimes when we talk, I notice that we think through things differently or communicate on different wavelengths. It’s nothing offensive or mean, just moments where I feel less mentally engaged than I expected, and I’m not sure what to make of that.
I hate that I even think this, because I love him and don’t think I’m “better” than him. I feel guilty for wondering whether intellectual compatibility matters more to me long-term than I realized.
Has anyone else experienced this?
Is this something stress and growth can exaggerate, or can it point to a real compatibility issue?
How do you tell the difference without blowing up a good relationship?
TL;DR- i'm having second thoughts about a great relationship over a intellectual difference and i'm not quite sure what to do