(18M) have been talking to this girl from another city/college for around 2–3 weeks. The chemistry is there — she’s open, talks freely, sends voice notes, plays truth-or-dare, shares random stuff, and even flirts lightly sometimes. When the conversation flows, it feels natural and fun.
But the consistency is unpredictable. Some days she replies normally, some days she disappears for hours, and sometimes she won’t talk for 1–2 days straight. During her exams, she didn’t talk for 12 days but did initiate the conversation afterward, so I know she’s not fully disinterested.
Recently, though, it’s become irregular again. She replies to my stories but leaves my texts unseen for hours. Her replies are often short (“yup”, “same to u”). I don’t feel anxious anymore, but I do miss the vibe because I genuinely like talking to her.
At the same time, I’m aware this is still the early stage. We’re not close, not emotionally bonded, not talking daily, and we haven’t built any deep connection yet. We barely know each other’s values, fears, or habits. So I’m not expecting relationship-level consistency — just trying to understand what’s normal.
I also realised I get attached to the idea of connection, not the person, because I like attention/warmth. I’m working on that by using Instagram less and letting things flow.
TL;DR: Talking to a girl from home town for 2–3 weeks. Sometimes she’s super engaging and flirty, sometimes she disappears for hours or days. Not close yet, so I’m not sure if this inconsistency is normal early-stage behaviour or a sign she’s losing interest. Trying to stay chill and not overthink. Unsure whether to let her initiate or move on
My question:
Is this kind of inconsistency normal when you're just getting to know someone casually? Or is she gradually losing interest? Should I stay chill and let her initiate, or accept she might not like me that way?