We’ve been together for 5 years, engaged for 6 months but we’ve known each other since we were like 6. Recently, I ran into mutual friend of my fiancé and I. We ended up talking about a dinner they went to a couple weeks back and I ended up finding out that I was invited to the dinner but my fiancé never told me. Apparently she had told the group I couldn’t come because the menu wasn’t vegetarian friendly. She never told me about the dinner and I was free that night. When I got home I asked my fiancé about it and she broke down and told me that she hadn’t been a vegetarian for 2 years and was hiding it from me because she was worried my parents would start to hate her.
My parents have made a couple pointed comments about my sister in law who is not vegetarian. Some of which are about her not being vegetarian. But their comments are because they hate her and they use her not being vegetarian as just another reason to insult her, they don’t actually hate non-vegetarians.
I don’t care if my Fiancé is vegetarian or not, I’m mostly vegetarian because I have certain dietary issues that just make it easier to be vegetarian. I asked my fiancé why she didn’t tell me and she insists it’s just because of my parents. I just can’t get over that answer. I can understand her wanting to hide it from my parents but I don’t get why she was hiding it from me. I’m mad she didn’t trust me to not tell my parents but I also feel like I can’t trust her anymore and if she was willing to lie to me about something as small as this for so long she might’ve lied about other things in the past.
I’ve been staying at my brother’s for the last couple of days because I don’t know if I can forgive her yet. Advice on how to move forward from this?
TL;DR My fiancé lied to me about being vegetarian for 2 years because she thinks my parents hate non vegetarians. I feel like I can’t trust her because she lied to me about something that small for 2 years.
Edit: For context on why my parents hate my sister in law. She’s been homophobic to my fiancé and I, she was racist towards my family, my fiancé’s family and her own family. My brother and her are currently separated but he can’t move forward with a divorce because she’s weaponizing my niece’s medical condition. She also refused to put my niece on an alternative diet even though she shares the same dietary issues that my mom and I have. We basically aren’t allowed to see my nephew as my sister in law hates us. I was supposed to get married in half a year but we had to push it back an additional year because my sister in law won’t allow my niece to come to my wedding if she’s not invited.
Edit: The non-vegetarian comments my parents made about my sister in law were thrown in while they were talking about the racism, homophobia, divorce, etc. Not to justify the comments they made about to not being vegetarian, just to clarify what’s being said.