I’m just really tired. I’m 28 F. I have always been intentional and tried finding a partner for the past 3 years. I really want children and I’m losing hope.
The relationships always ended because of something bad which they did. Things ended on good terms though because we are adults. I think I’m just unlucky.
Talking stages are so exhausting rn. I’ll talk to someone for a couple hours and they’ll even make plans to meet me but after a couple days, I get ghosted. I have no interest in giving my time and energy to anyone anymore.
How do you all recover from the failures and make dating fun? I miss being carefree and going on dates.
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Intentional really doesn’t help us much these day…. What app are you using ?
I don’t know. at least you have more time than me, I am in my late 30s
What does intentional mean to you? Does it mean you don’t go on a date with someone unless they are marriage material?
Just keep trying, you’re doing better than I am. I’m 47 and still trying to find my first relationship
It really seems that, unless you’re very lucky, dating will be a grind for most people. A shitty reality that we’re all fighting through
Hi op, I’m 31m and here’s my 2 cents as someone who has been intentionally dating for 5 years now and regularly gets ghosted. Dating overall is horrendous for just about everyone right now and maintaining a positive attitude is by far one of the hardest parts. And based of what you said it’s sounds to me like you’re burned out. And that’s ok, I went through the same thing last summer and what honestly worked for me was to just take a break from the apps and dating. It doesn’t have to be for long maybe a month or 2, But sometimes you just need to take a break and to get your mind off it every so often.
Also personally I’d stop viewing them as failures. Especially when it’s not your fault things ended. Sometimes people really just suck and it takes time for that to come to light. But either way, You’ll be ok and I’m sure you’ll find your person in due time just hang in there. You got this.
It’s all work. But that time when it pays off is pretty nice. Until it doesn’t, which then again, more work. But you want children, and plenty of guys want that too. Have you looked into divorced dads? Like what are your current requirements that could be bent a bit?