Painful intercourse
She says that her vaginal opening is small and that my girth causes pain. Another redditor described the painful area as the posterior fourchette. The bottom side of the vaginal opening, closest to her anus and perineum.
We do tons of foreplay and I usually go down on her for at least 15 minutes. She usually orgasms. If we decide to have intercourse, we usually don’t need lube, but sometimes we use it anyway. She always experiences pain and the bottom part of her vaginal opening, closest to her butthole. I usually take a while to fully enter her, and once entered sometimes I just don’t thrust. We usually are in missionary or use CAT and are on our bed (not on a table top, sofa, car hood, etc…)
Sometimes she cries 🥺. We talk while in the moment and I try to adjust my pressure/angle but nothing seems to help relieve the pain she is feeling.
I am asking for helpful discussion that could lead to resolving this for her.
I’ve heard that vaginal tissue becoming loose is a myth, but is it possible to loosen up temporarily? Like would it help if I used my fingers instead of my penis? Or used a smaller diameter dildo??
I don’t really care about cumming, or require intercourse..I just want her to have fun and get an orgasm or two. She seems to want intercourse to happen and to be enjoyable.
Can anyone point me in the direction of help?
Thank you