I've been with my Girlfriend for over 4 years now and we've been living with eachother for about 2½ years. Before we moved we would often talk about how much sex we would have but ever since we've moved our sexlife has halted to almost a complete stop. I've tried any and everything I can think of. I've communicated that sex isn't everything but its important to me in a relationship and everytime we talk about it she feels bad and gives me pity sex which I hate more than anything, I want her to WANT me the same way I want her.
The reason why iam staring to cave is because of an argument we had yesterday about our sexlife i told her that I know she doesn't enjoy having sex with me because she never asks me if I want to but she has no problem asking me to do things she enjoys like going to the mall/shopping, going on walks, cooking food, watching movies and knitting (which im shit at)
been to therapy
She doesn't know what turns her on or finds "hot"
We rarely cuddle because she stays up untill she has to go to bed and fall asleep immediately.
Ive taken over majority of the chores in the household even tho I work full-time while she works part-time so she doesn't feel stressed out when she comes home
And ive helped her pay of all her debt
Iam genuinely at my breaking point I feel unwanted and unattractive. Any advice please?