Idk why things are this way but if I wanna take a nap bc I have a headache it’s a problem if I wanna sleep before she dose it’s a problem but when she goes to sleep first and takes over the whole bed and I have to wake her up she’s pissed bc that’s what she told me to do originally but she still gets mad if I’m fully awake and just breath wrong when we’re trying to sleep I get hit in the ribs she gives me attitude on every little thing I do she dosent even respect my stuff and just throws it to the side I don’t even own much stuff and it just sits in a storage tub bc everything in the room is hers and I have nowhere to put anything, and when I wanna sleep and I’m about to fall asleep she makes me wake up until she gets ready to sleep and sometimes she kicks me to the couch bc she just wants some time to rest her back and needs the queen size bed to herself I don’t wanna lose her but at the same time idk how much longer I can take it due to other stress we’ve been together for 4 months live together but we haven’t had sex yet, bc we can never get privacy due to roommates, he back is hurting, or she dosent feel well but I could care less about sex but we haven’t even made out since last month and we were doing that weekly idk what’s going on and idk what I should do anymore


3 comments

  1. You’re discovering some of the reasons you’re not supposed to move into together until much later in a relationship. If you’d taken the recommended year to get to know each other’s habits, have sleepovers, discuss your possessions and negotiate your sleep schedules you’d be in a much better situation. That said, you can’t build a relationship with someone if you’ve got roommates around. Whichever one of you had this place before you got together should stay there and the other one should move out. You can continue dating if you want to and start the process of debating and plotting and planning to someday get a place of your own together. But this rushed cohabitation before you even made it through the ‘honeymoon phase’ was a big mistake.

  2. It sounds like she doesn’t even like you, let alone have any respect for you tbh

  3. First, you’re 22. Relationships should not be this hard. It sounds to me like you’re holding on to something she doesn’t want.

    I’m not trying to be super Reddit-cliche but break up with her. She’s not worth it. You’re 22. You have so, so, so much time to be appreciated by someone who likes you. This isn’t it.

    Secondly, work on the punctuation thing…because, damn.

    Edit: WTF? You’ve been together for 4 months, live together AND haven’t had sex yet? I don’t know why I missed all that.

    Sex isn’t the problem. It’s intimacy. As in, it doesn’t sound like she likes you enough to be intimate with you, emotionally or physically. I’m so sorry. I’m going to guess you pay for everything, too. All of this sounds downright miserable. You need to run. Right. Now.

    Please, please, please start building a backbone for yourself. You may not love yourself enough right now to say, “get out,” to her but at least fake having enough backbone to say, “get out,” to her. No matter how painful it might seem at the time. Trust me, your pride and love for yourself will get better the stronger your boundaries are.

    Please, bro. Get out now. Have some fun instead.

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