So I’ve been international long distance besties with a friend I met at comicon 12 years ago. We travel all over together, usually 1-2 overseas trips a year, and she frequently comes to visit me because she works for an airline. She is my platonic soulmate and I couldn’t imagine life without her!!
For background, around 2017, bestie admitted she had feelings for me (I’m a lesbian, she’s bi), and I told her that I didn’t have romantic feelings for her. Things were briefly awkward but we moved past it and stayed best friends. Fastforward to 2018 and I got into a relationship with my now-ex. Bestie came into town for a visit but seemed really off when I planned for her to meet my gf and she conveniently had a headache the one night we had plans all together.
Then we stopped talking.
Admittedly it was a bit mutual, I stopped reaching out as well. I was a little bummed at her behaviour and I had some guilt over “moving on” and dating someone.
We didn’t speak for around 4 years. I split with my ex in 2022 and that’s when bestie and I reconnected. She was in town with her family about to head on a cruise (I live in a port city) and we went for dinner. It was like no time had passed! Before you knew it we were planning our next trip together and chatting like nothing had ever happened.
I’ve been single since my last ex but have recently started dating someone new (who is absolutely amazing btw and has made me realize that my ex set the bar in hell LMAO), and I want to share it with my bestie! But I’m scared that she’ll pull away again and I don’t want to lose her. We have a trip planned in 2 weeks and I want to tell her before we leave but I don’t know how to approach it.
Help??