I (18m) started college with my friend, Remy (18m). He met this girl, Bell (19f). Fake names ofc. While talking to her, she invited us to a frat party where she is friends with a lot of the brothers and had romantic/sexual histories with some. The night before the party, she slept with one of the brothers, then ended up going home with Remy after the party. Before they hooked up, she explicitly stated she was NOT looking for a relationship, which was good cause Remy also didn’t want that. However, over the course of the semester, they were like a couple just without the label or exclusivity but they had clear expectations of each other. During this time.she slept with one other person but he did not. As we kept going to this frat, Remi started wanting to rush, so when she started showing more toxic tendencies, he felt that he couldn’t break it off because of how embedded she is to the frat. Then at a party where she got way too intoxicated, she started talking about wanting a relationship, posing an ultimatum where she said “do you want a relationship, yes or no, right now, cause otherwise I’m fucking someone else”. He answered honestly, which was no, and she slept with someone else. The next day, she said she loved him and wanted a relationship when she was sober. In all fairness, we should’ve/did see this coming as she hinted at wanting a relationship to me. They decided to just go back to how things were, however she started using pet names more frequently and it was clear she wanted a relationship still. This led to Remi telling her he loved her on New Year’s Eve and them getting in a relationship. This was mainly caused by pressure from our other friends. Now the big issue is he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with her. She is very toxic and just a bad person in general. Throughout all of this, I told him to break things off but because of her importance to the frat, he would risk not being able to rush. I understand I have a lot of bias as his friend but I truly want what’s best for him and apart of that is being able to join the frat. So, what should we do? Are we as fucked as we think are? Any advice would help.
TLDR: my friend got pressured into a relationship he doesn’t want to be in and we want to get him out without ruining his chances of rushing a frat.