This is my first time making a detailed Reddit post, so I'm sorry if I messed up here and there, I tried my best to follow the rules and I hope I didn't write too much!
So this is my first ever relationship, and fortunately it's with someone who had feelings for me first! She is 21(F) approached me in 2nd semester of our college and by the end of 4rd sem, she confessed. I didn't push her away, instead I tried to be respectful of her feelings and asked for some time to think about it. Eventually, I fell for her! Fast forward to our last month in college, I proposed her, and while she confessed first, asking for a relationship, she said she's not ready and needs time when I proposed. Few days of talking and asking for her trust, she said yes.
But now, as we're closing in on our first year, I am starting to notice that she's not as invested as I expected her to be or as she should be. Few things to note about her personality, she's a 'man-hater'(but she's nice to me), that's part of her personality and I am fine with it, because I understand it, and while it may be wrong some times, I cannot make her change her mind(I have tried, didn't end well).
So, initially when she wouldn't reciprocate the efforts, I'd act like it's nothing and ignore it most of the time. Eventually when I noticed that nothing is changing, I had a conversation with her that ended up in her saying she'll work on things to improve them.
For 4 days she actually acted on what she said she'd do, and then it's back to the original behavior! Taking longer to reply, replying sarcastically to every message, disrespecting my friends in front of hers, and occasionally taking shots at me while we're in a group. after those 4 days, I haven't yet brought up this conversation yet! Because I want to be sure if I'm not overthinking and that's just how relationships get with time!
This, being my first ever relationship, has made me very careful of everything. I think before I do something, I overthink what she does and how she responds to me, basically I'm just extra careful to not mess it up! And I'm doing my best both materialistically and conversationally to not make her mad! There are lot of things that I don't like, but I have never brought them up! But she casually goes no contact if I accidentally mess up!
Now on to the main reason I am writing this:
From the past few days, I am feeling some sort of tension and distance between us. Obviously I tried asking to her in all ways I could think of, and I got "Nothing", like always. She hasn't gone non-verbal so that's a relief, but something about her messages, her behavior and her tone hints me that something is wrong! Striking up a conversation about it didn't help.
I have no prior experience with women, so I want to know what should I do and how should I proceed about this 'dip'.
TL;DR
I(21M) am about to complete 1st year of my relationship, and things have taken a dip from her(21F) side! We have had a conversation about this, it was better for few days and then it was back to the original state. how should I handle this?