Throw away for obvious reasons.
I’ll start by saying I’m not proud about any of this – I would do anything to turn the clock back and change it all.
10 years ago, a month before I was due to get married I slept with a co worker. I knew it was a mistake as soon as I did it.
I came clean to my now husband, we went through difficult times but made it work and have been happy.
Lately, after all this time my husband has started asking me questions about that night, I tied to answer honestly but the questions became more and more specific. When I called him out on it he confessed that the sense of betrayal had been replaced by arousal and he wanted to hear the details of that night. – not to shame me or to get closure but instead for his gratification.
I said no and he accepts that, but I’m now wondering what the long term effects of my mistake have been. I know it’s not a normal response to a cheating spouse- can anyone expalin what he may be going through and how to handle or move forward. I feel I owe it to go to help him.
Thanks