I've been living with my family for my entire life and for a few years now I've been wanting to move out. I have had to listen and witness to so much traumatic and toxic shit from my parents and the shit happening between them and my sister over the years that i literally can't handle it anymore. The stress from it literally overwhelms me from doing what i need to do.
Thankfully i have a friend that's letting me to move in with them, but one of the biggest things that's making this move hard to do is my family, mainly my mother.
My mom doesn't have a job, isn't well educated and is often physically weak. I'm honestly not sure if she can get a job. She has ways to get some money here and there at least, but idk if its really sustainable.
(I closeted myself most of my life, including not spending time and getting to know my family, so there's a lot i don't know. I could try to get to know them but i can't be bothered to try with my family anymore)
A couple years ago i ended up being the only one working to pay rent. i didn't mind too much for a while, especially since things were mostly calm for a long while since then. (at least compared to what i dealt with)
But once things started to get more hectic, having two instances very close to each other where i had to deal with my parents toxic attitude head on for a week each and my sister coming back and making things harder, i realized why i wanted to leave and i just wanted to get out.
Problem is it feels like my family relies on me for money now since my dad and likely my mom can't work, especially since now she is helping to take care of my sisters baby. I can't afford being able to help pay rent and stuff while also living out on my own, so i need as much as i can get.
At the very least ever since my sister came back my mother doesn't rely on my money as much, but she still uses the money i get from my monthly checks and there's times i need to put money in the bank to prevent overdraft.
Also considering how rocky the relationship is between my sister and my parents, idk if she could stay long here and help pay rent and bills.
Despite everything and how i feel about them all now, i still want them to live fine without me. i talked to my mom months ago about moving out this year and she didn't take it well. besides worrying about me and not trusting me nor approving with how I'm moving out, she sees me wanting to save money for myself as abandoning her.
Ever since then, my mom hasn't made an effort to prepare for this. I'll be trying to talk with her more now that I'm getting ready to go, but it's hard as she hasn't been the best mentally for years and shits been happening with her recently.
Considering she relies on me so much for money and stuff like having a bank and such and refused getting help from others thinking there isn't anyone to help, i need options on what i can suggest to my mom and what she can do. We live in Texas so any services are best from here or can be accessed.
I'll be moving out regardless soon for my own health and i don't want to spend more time here, but i want to be assured my family will be fine when i leave.
Also helpful if anyone has suggestions for getting someone to help with taking care of the baby.
TL;DR – I was the only one working in my family, my mom likely can't have a sustaining job and my dad can't work. My sister is with us and has a job to pay for rent, but the relationship between her and my parent's can be pretty bad at times, so it's possible she might not stay at some point.
I want to move out and live with a friend but my mom relies on me for money and other things and i need help with options so she doesn't have to.
Also need to know if it is possible to get someone to help take care of my sisters baby.