I (18M) got my heart broken by this girl (18F), the first ive ever really loved and kissed, i met her in my uni, we study for the same degree, in the same class.
I gave her everything, really put all of myself into it. We started texting after sitting close in class a few times, we texted all day for days, this texting stage lasted for a month. During this time we also obvioisly met up, both to study and in actual dates, we kissed in all of them, it looked perfect, like she actually had only me in her mind and i felt truly loved. I was always honest, always complimenting her and never letting her doubt anything about my interest. I was going to confess my feelings for her the last time we met, but i cokld only kiss her for abot 20 minutes, and due to something happening with my family i had to leave earlier, ofc we kissed and then immediately texted each other. I was gonna prepare something big, a box of gifts with things she liked the most and flowers, until one day she starts getting dry, she replies later, she delays our dates and uses more and more excuses. My anxiety kicks in, the fear of losing her, I start feeling like shit, but i keep it in not to stress her. it is sunday now, 3 days after i got the "explaination" and it is: she didnt saw the "more" in us. Only a week passed from the last time she admitted "ur right it was a stupid question ahahah, its obvious that i like you, and you can see i", only a week.
She couldnt even explain appropriately what made her lose interest, I was doing the exact same things as i did the first days, the things she fell for.
I wrote a whole paragraph, saying how much i loved her, how i would retry with her anytime, despite the suffering she is bringing me now, the hot-cold behaviour she had the few days before this text was killing me, as i get attached easily when i care.
She gave me no answers basically, she said she would stay as friends, which for me is impossible, i would die looking at her and having to accept it. I tried to ask her if she had any problems with herself, that i could help her with them, i opened up my whole heart and said every damn feeling, even the most deep things you would keep for yourself. Everything i said was because i felt it, not because i thought she could come back for that.
I truly cared and i truly liked, she even said it herself, she isnt the person who kisses someone randomly while she thinks it wont go anywhere.
So why only 6 days for this decision? I wonder how she could remove me so easily when i put my whole soul in it. I wont feel Better for much time, and ill always hope she comes back sadly.
TL;DR
18M i fell in love with an 18F classmate at uni after a month of intense texting, dates, and kissing. Everything felt mutual and genuine, but just as i was about to ask her what she wanted to do on the next date, she suddenly became distant and started delaying dates and rejecting them . A few days later, she said she didn’t see a future (“the more”) with me, without clearly explaining why—despite recently saying she liked me (6 days before she admitted it was obvious). I opened up completely and asked to try again, but she only offered friendship, which I can’t handle. I'm heartbroken, confused by how fast she lost interest, and struggling to accept that it’s over.