I’ve been in a good relationship for over a year now but during December my boyfriend and I hit a bumpy road. While we were doing the deed he looked through my phone. In which he found a dic pic from before we dated which is a problem I know. What doesn’t help either was that I was still following the guy. A little back story to that he had my nude and had leaked them before so I kept his in hidden incase it happened again but I was still following him on instagram. Continued that I don’t check my hidden often because I have pictures of me when I was depressed. Well it’s caused a big problem in our relationship. He doesn’t trust me anymore and thinks ive done other Things with guys but I haven’t. Hes the second guy ive ever been with sexually and romantically. I don’t know what to do. It’s brought up multiple times by him ( understandably) but I don’t know what to do I keep telling my side of what happen but he can’t accept that because he thinks I’m a liar and doesn’t trust me. A little while ago we had a talk about it again and I know it hurts him but I don’t know what else to tell him. Today we had another conversation on text where he told me he can’t really see me the same after that. Which understandable but I want to work this out. Ik it’s going to take time but I love him and don’t want to lose him. Ik I shouldn’t have had the dic pic or still be following the guy but it was out of me being scared. He really doesn’t believe me and has asked me to leave him alone and he doesn’t want to talk to me for a while. Before this he was telling me about all the guys I follow which are from highschool and college (I’m 19) and how I posted myself in a bra and shorts (before we were together but it’s still up) but I tried telling him if I bothered him to tell me and I would have taken them down in a heart beat but he said I should’ve known. Continuing it went back to me having the dic pic in my hidden and still following the guy and I kept telling him the situation in which why I have it. But he doesn’t believe and thinks it’s bullshit and he thinks now everything else I’ve done and said is bullshit. What do I do. 🙁 I guess there’s more but that’s the thing I need advice or help on what to do
I know it’ll take awhile and I can’t force him but we’ve hung out already after the whole situation and it’s been okay. Just now it really feels like it’s the end for us. I’ve never done anything to make him think otherwise of me but now that this has happened he thinks I’ve done other things which I haven’t.
tl;dr
Short story my boyfriend found a dic pic in my hidden from before we were together and I was still following the guy in fear he would leak my nude like he did in the past but my boyfriend doesn’t believe me.