I apologise in advance for any grammar or spelling mistakes I’m dyslexic.
Me (20M) and my gf (20F) has been together for nearly 3 years and we love each other a lot and everything is great between us other than the sex. At the beginning of our relationship we had frequent sex like multiple times a week where we both initiated and I honestly feel that was also the happiest time in our relationship. We used to sext and flirted on text and in person all the time and she couldn’t last longer than a week without doing anything sexual.
but she went on the pill for a couple months and the sex completely stopped and we would rarely even do anything sexual. I understood that it was the pill affecting things so after a while she decided to come off the pill because it was affecting her mood.
She has now come off the pill and been off for about 8 months and ever since it’s like she’s a different person, I understand the pill can affect a person but she’s completely different she says she’s not bothered if we never have sex again even though she used to love doing it. She never ever flirts or sexts over the phone or even in person. I’ve tried communicating multiple times about being more active and she usually says that we will have sex next time we see each other but it never happens. We might do the odd sexual thing but that’s always me initiating but never leads to sex, I’m always the one doing things to her but never anything to me, she’ll do something sexual to me 2-4 times a month if I’m lucky while I’m doing it to her 4-5 times a week.
Recently when I’ve tried communicating all this to her she just says she either says she’s not bothered about sex and is happy if we never do it or she says she’s just insecure about her looks.
TL;DR me and my gf aren’t having sex anymore and she isn’t bothered but I am.
Any advice would be much appreciated.