The way things are looking in this world, I am unsure I will ever be able to afford a wedding, a house, or children.
I come from very hard working immigrant parents that would continue to support me financially if need be, even as an adult. Of course, I work hard to make my own way. But this means I would only feel comfortable having kids of my own if I can provide for them- pay for higher education and a good QOL for all of us.
I have been having a lot of financial stress. I am a new grad in Canada and wages are stagnant and low while cost of living increases. I have been very focused on saving for unprecedented times- I have a FT 9-5 and a PT serving job.
My boyfriend is lovely. We have been dating over a year, and were best friends for years prior. He treats me very well. However, he doesn’t have the same drive to make money as I do. He has a decent 9-5 job but it pays very low. He isn’t as driven to reach the same salary ranges as I do. He is more focused on balance and a humble life. I am by no means materialistic, I don’t own luxury items nor do I want to. I just want to be able to travel, eat out at the restaurants I want to, and live without financial stress.
I love him to bits, but I don’t know how we can possibly ever afford a future together like this. I know if I work hard, I could make a good future for myself. I don’t like the responsibility of being a breadwinner. In an ideal scenario, my partner would make much more money than me and I would only work for fun/to keep my mind active. I don’t want to place burden, I just wish he would step up, or that our situation was better.
How to proceed in a situation like this? Does anyone share similar sentiments or experiences?