My wife wants to do surgery, a mommy makeover. She has gained a lot of weight in a short time due to medication that she had been taking and feels insecure and my porn use is the reason for it. Weight has always been something she has been afraid of. Kind of part of the culture. It’s all her family talks about.
Due to health reasons she has postponed the surgery. She is going to workout and focus on control her food better.
But she still wants the surgery. I realize that there is a big chance that she leaves me after that. Even though she says she won’t and she is still very loving. But the confidence boost of surgery may lead to that.
I want to be better and have booked therapy even though my wife doesn’t think I should waste money on it, she isn’t a fan of therapy in general.
I just wonder what I at least can try to become better? Porn hasn’t really been something I do instead of having sex with her, it doesn’t take time from me doing chores or taking care of our kids. I have taken on most of those things last year due to her health. I give her compliments often, know they may not mean much but I do give them.
My wife doesn’t look at my phone or asks me to remove anything or anything at all about it. She sometimes asks if I have watched. The last time was 2 months ago and I haven’t watched it since.
But what can I do more to save this?