Me(17F) and my ex(17M) broke up about ~8 months ago. Soon after that, not even a week, I got with my current boyfriend. I was 16 at the time and I couldn’t tell you why I did it other than emotions. I love my boyfriend so much. I do not like my ex at all. I just want to stop thinking about him. I’m sure he’s long stopped thinking about me and I just can’t. Everything reminds me of him or his family. It drives me crazy. I hate it. I don’t want this to ruin my relationship. But maybe I ruined it by getting with someone new so quick. My ex was my first relationship too. I just don’t know what to do. Usually I have everything figured out but I don’t know anything right now.
TL;DR I need help with not thinking about my ex while I’m in a relationship.
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What’s happening to you is the stuck emotions you didn’t deal with after you broke up with your boyfriend. Because after all, you shouldn’t have started any relationship after one week. I mean, you didn’t take the time to process your grief. So, this is something that will keep coming back to you because emotions like this don’t go away. They will always come back, and if you do the same thing over and over again, you’re going to end up with a lot of accumulated emotional baggage and become completely depressed. Take your time. Don’t suppress your emotions—cry if you need to. And then, after that, move on.