My (F22) and boyfriend (M24) have been dating almost a year. He’s in school an hour away but when he’s not in school we live in the same city that I work in. I really didn’t think I initially have separation anxiety but I am more and more worried I’m developing it.
Recently when we separate after hanging out or even when he is getting ready to hang up the phone I’ve been more and more emotional about it. (Ex: when he hangs up the phone I will get kinda grumpy and then I’ll miss him for a little while after he hangs up but then I’ll eventually be good until the next time we talk on the phone/see each other). When we first started dating I was not like this at all and was completely good when he left. Over the summer when we started seeing each other less I started feeling more emotional by the end of the day/towards when we were getting ready to leave. We created a thing where we talk in the phone each day we don’t see each other to feel more connected to each other and we both LOVE IT and look forward to our calls each day.
We see each other 1-2 days out of the week. (When he’s home from school for breaks theses days are separated but when he’s in school we will see each other for 2 weekend days) and the days we don’t see each other we talk on the phone for 1-2.5 hours. I’ve had a few moments that when I leave after hanging out I break down and cry and I can’t really control it. We’ve had many discussions about it and he doesn’t think it’s normal. It was bad when he first went to school this year (aug-sep) and I an still living in the city I work in but it’s been better since but I had another similar moment recently after a night we hung out and we were just having an emotional talk before he left and I broke down as he was leaving (3 weeks ago). Since then, I’ve been better about not breaking down when he leaves but I feel like I’ve been getting more and more upset when he gets ready to hang up the phone on our nightly calls and it’s putting some stress on him because he feels like I wasn’t fulfilled by the conversation with him.
For more context once a few hours go by after talking or hanging out or in the following days till I see him again I’m completely fine. I don’t worry about what he’s doing and I’m not necessarily “itching to talk or see him” even when I miss him. It’s just when we’re leaving.
I’m not sure what I’m asking for by posting this. Is this something other people experience or have advice on? We’ve talked about me just trying to find more things to look forward to after we’re done hanging or calling and planning when the next time I will see him which have helped a bit but I’m just trying to see what others have to say about this.
TL;DR I feel like I’m more emotional when my bf leaves me and I’ve been growing more of an attitude when we hang up the phone now. Not sure if it’s some sort of separation anxiety despite the fact I feel completely fine an hour later or the days I don’t see him.