My 47F husband 38M (married 2.5 years, together 4 years) frequently walks in to the kitchen, shoves his hand into my crotch, and rubs HARD and fast – I didn't think it was fun or funny. He had done this often over the past 3+ years. I finally stopped him and let him know that I didn't like it and I didn't think it was fun, that it didn't feel good and there were lots of other ways to touch or play that I would actually like.
He got offended. He told me that he just wouldn't touch me at all, and that id miss it when he didn't "play" with me anymore. I stood my ground. He kept his word and no longer touches or plays with me in the kitchen at all, not a kiss or even a brief touch. That was in September.
I feel like I was setting a boundary and giving alternatives and I was punished for it. What are your thoughts on this?