I (23M) was seeing a girl (21F) for a while, and things ended in mid-December after I uncovered a lot of dishonesty about her past timelines and what she was doing while we were talking. The breakup was emotional — she admitted to lying by omission, minimized things for months, and I ultimately walked away because I felt like my trust was gone.
About a week later, she reached out on Christmas. She wrote a long message saying she cared about me, understood how badly she hurt me, apologized for the lack of honesty, and said she wanted to talk when I was ready — either to figure out where we stand, or to get real closure.
I replied and told her we could talk sometime after the holidays. We later had a long phone call where we went through a lot of what happened. It was emotional but calm. I made it very clear that if we talked again in person, I would need full honesty, no minimizing, and no half-truths. She said she understood, missed me, and still wanted that conversation.
We agreed that:
• she’d let me know on Sunday (Jan 4th) if she still wanted to move forward with it
• our in-person talk would be on Jan 6th
She asked if she should text me on New Year’s, and I told her it was up to her. She did — wished me a happy new year and was warm about it. I replied politely, nothing emotional, just respectful.
Then two days later… she blocked me on Instagram.
No fight. No disagreement. No warning.
At the same time:
• she suddenly went public
• started posting again after not posting for a long time
• gained a bunch of new followers
• started following a lot of new guys
• one of her close friends (who doesn’t want her talking to me) may be influencing her
So now I’m stuck trying to make sense of it.
I don’t know whether she:
• blocked me to avoid accountability before our talk
• had friends convince her to cut things off
• emotionally panicked and shut down
• or is testing me to see if I’ll chase
We were literally supposed to talk tomorrow, and part of me wonders whether blocking was a way of backing out instead of admitting more truth.
I still care — but I also don’t want to look desperate or chase someone who already made their decision.
Would you try to contact her to confirm whether the conversation is still happening — or treat the block as closure?
EDIT: SHE JUST TEXTED ME ASKING IF WERE DOING TOMORROW. STILL BLOCKED ON IG