I'm 42, being seeing a guy that is 32 for a few months. We both have high drives. I normally get him off orally fine but things were not working. So he started watching po*rn and jerking off. He said he was going to cum on my face. This is a kink of mine and he has always REFUSED to do so saying “I should know how to get him off”.
While he was watching p*rn pleasuring himself he refused to have s*x with me or touch me. I tried to get in the mood too and brought out a vibrator. I have enjoyed watching p*rn with previous partners when we are both into it and want to try something new. I ended up feeling disconnected watching him jerk off to p*orn without a glance towards me and outright refusal to touch me. I got up and left the room feeling disrespected and devalued.
It’s not the porn; it’s the total lack of any notice of me. I’m also alarmed that he’d rather jerk off to an image when there is an actual pussy that is wet for him. He also refuses to kiss me on my mouth, saying hes not a kissing type. I’m a realist and now things change with couples but we are only a few months in. Should I try to talk to him or just run? Since I am older it could be an opportunity to address toxic behaviors. Is his high sex drive really a porn addiction?