So essentially to break it down really basic for you guys I have an on and off again relationship with my ex. I tend to run away and be insecure about things. I can’t help as my ex works within the clubbing industry as a bartender. I’ve never had an issue with the patrons but more with her coworkers. This was originally a concern before we broke up, then when we did cut things off she had a small fling with a coworker. Obviously this flared up some emotions when we got back together. Then we broke up again and she outright had sex with another coworker. Now tonight is my big issue and I want advice whether I should leave permanently or not. She had a late Christmas party with her coworkers which she initially invited me to, then quickly back tracked when I brought up going out with her tonight. She essentially said it would cause issues with the coworkers and since we aren’t fully official as of now that seems like we are “dating.” Mind you we have gone on full dates to restaurants, escape rooms, and had sex many times. This all has me feeling confused as the boundaries are super blurred. I just don’t see how someone couldn’t be insecure about this kind of a situation, she makes me feel crazy for having concerns. But I care about this women so deeply, and she seems to do all the right things 95% of the times, I just fixate on the 5% wrong because they always feel sooo wrong. Just anyone with more of a rational brain tells me what your thoughts of this are. I obviously can’t describe all of the context in one post but if you’d like more detail lmk.