This is a bit of a tricky post for me to make, but I’m really struggling with maintaining boundaries with someone I had a hookup with/not indulging in compulsive sexual behaviors.
I met this man a while back. Whilst he is a sweet individual, when we did have our first sexual encounter I ended up with a ton of vaginal swelling, slight tearing, and a yeast infection due to how rough he was/lack of lubrication. I communicated this with him, and told him I didn’t want to continue to have sexual encounters with him. He seemed to respect this, till he asked me a few weeks later if we could “try again”, and have a “less awkward encounter”. It wasn’t the awkwardness, it was the lack of communication and how my body reacted to it is what turned me off. I felt like I should give him another chance and agreed, but am now starting to regret it all over again. I feel like I’m letting my horny desires get to my head and am setting my body up for complications and health issues due to my compulsive sexual habits. How do I set healthy boundaries with someone about this?