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I find it uncomfortable and somewhat intrusive when someone (from a dating app, for instance) ask me very personal questions right after the first meeting/date, sometimes even before meeting in person. By personal questions i mean: how was your day? Where are you going? how was work?…
I agree that sometimes these can come up naturally in a face-to-face meeting. But I don’t like when people I barely know text me those questions as conversations starters. These are usually reserved for people I know well and I care about.
Can anyone relate to this feeling ?
Had an amazing date, but he’s not texting me between dates. I don’t want to text first, so we wait
I’ve seen this girl a few times over the past few weeks and I want to try a relationship with her. I’m hoping she’s on the same page as it seems we have a good time together and we’re always talking about things we should do next.
I have tentative plans to see her tomorrow, and I’m a very direct and explicit person. Would it be weird to just say something like “hey I’ve been enjoying the time we spend together, would you be interested in a relationship?”. It feels awkward so I’m wondering if I can word it better.
Chatting with a guy and we started having a good rapport. I discussed being a former (but really non-practicing) Catholic and his response was ‘oh yeah, what made you “lose your faith”? 😈’
Ick.
I’m really, really sad today. Normally I can look at an incompatibility/dealbreaker and see it for what it is and move on, but this one just … really fucking sucks.
We’ve been talking since August and met up for the first time a couple weeks ago and it was instant electricity and comfort. We spent NYE together and went on a couple more dates before she confessed that my child-free life and her growing attraction to me were ringing alarm bells and signaling to her that she isn’t as could-go-either-way as she thought.
No way can we revert back to platonic friendship, so now we’re not even talking anymore. At first I was just sad over the potential of it all, but I woke up today to a blank phone home screen and now I’m realizing I’ve lost a really good friend, too.
Ugh.
I really want to make a really solid effort with online dating this year, I’d love to have a relationship that makes it pass the three month mark.
But jeezus, when its -2*C outside and dark at 4pm its hard to even gather the energy to freshen up my Hinge profile, let alone activate, swipe and meet people from it.