**TL;DR; : i’m (18F) in a 9-month long-distance relationship with my boyfriend (17M). we met on discord and have never met in real life. the relationship started very fast when i was at a low point and needed attention. at first it was intense and good, but over time i lost romantic feelings and realized i’m not made for long-distance. he talks a lot about our future and depends on me emotionally. he struggles badly with mental health and has said he wouldn’t be here without me, which makes me feel pressured and scared to leave. our relationship is getting worse, and i don’t know whether to break up or stay, or how to talk to him without hurting him.**
hello reddit!!
me (18F) and my boyfriend (17M) have been together for almost nine months. we're in a long distance relationship and we've never seen each other in person. we met on a discord server. a week after that we've already been together because he was really pushing us into that, claiming he's madly in love with me after he got to know me a little. i agreed, i was at a low point in my life where i was really just looking for someone who could give me attention i needed. and he did.
he's almost perfect, he's caring, always making sure i'm okay. we had a really intense and fun time from may to early september, everything was amazing and going okay, we were planning to meet in december. but it didn't work out. we're stil stuck with distance, not sure when we'd be able to finally meet.
he makes huge plans about us, the future with me, says that without me his life won't be complete. the problem is that i don't feel it anymore.
i think i've lost feelings due to distance and the fact that i don't know him in real life. i think i can say that i love him because many times he made things better, but i'm not in love with him. i've been thinking of breaking up. the problem is i don't want him to suffer. we already had a similar situation and he was on the phone crying his eyes out and begging me to stay. so i did. but i don't think i was made for that kind of relationships. i need someone who will be there with me, someone i can touch because they're next to me. it's not like he's a bad person, i just don't think i was made for long distance. and there's no way we could change that soon.
(TW!) he's struggling really bad with mental health. he said many times that without me he probably wouldn't be here anymore. that's the thing that scares me, i feel a huge pressure because of that. he has complicated and hard past, many bad things happened and are still happening to him. i don't want to leave him alone with all that. he has no one but me. family, friends issues, plus bad thoughts about himself. i'm really scared he'll do something bad when i leave.
for a few previous days things are going wrong in our relationship, we don't talk much, last night he cried on the phone with me. i don't know what to do anymore, every answer will be appreciated, should i break up or stay? what should i tell him?