So this semester in college I had a class with a girl who is so out of my league I thought I was getting pranked when she texted me out of the blue that she wanted to have sex. And it was a text straight up plainly saying literally that. We’d exchanged numbers in a group chat for a group assignment. Anyways, I obviously go for it and we fuck 2-3 times per week for a bit. I’m really into her this whole time but tried not to make it so obvious.
At one point we talk about getting serious, and she says that she wants to but wants to wait a bit, gives me some sort of BS dance around answer. I take it as her just wanting a FWB situation and we continue as usual. We talk again a few weeks later and she says she isn’t looking for anything serious. I was pretty devastated but kept it inside, and we slow down having sex to once every couple of weeks but still see each other in class and with friends almost daily.
New Years happens, and she and I are in a group of about 25 people that head out clubbing. She seems pretty distant and aloof, unusually so. I keep my distance, and at midnight, we each kiss different people. That was a gut punch for me but while talking in a group afterwards she seems like her usual self and we get along fine. She even teased me lightheartedly about that girl.
Everyone goes home at like 2 and an hour later I get a super drunk call from her asking how I could do this to her, asking why I cheated on her, asking why she isn’t good enough, etc. etc. this goes on for a bit until I hear her friend ask what the fuck she’s doing and to hang up. She calls me again an hour later, still obviously drunk, and tells me she loves me, and every time I try to get a word in she just interrupts telling me she loves me, that she’s obsessed, I’m all she thinks about, etc. I finally got her off the phone after telling her I loved her too and muttered an audible “what the fuck?” to myself when I hung up.
I run into that friend later in the evening and she tells me that she told her that we were just casual, that it was nothing serious, etc. and was just as confused as I was.
What the fuck is going on here?