I (26F) have been with my husband (28M) for almost 8 years now. When we were early on in our relationship I feel like I never had to ask for planned dates, little treats from the store, (he rarely ever has surprised me with flowers even though I talk all the time about how nice that would be) etc. I’ll come home from the store and always pick him up a little surprise (his favorite candy, cookies, etc) and he says it makes him happy and he appreciates it so much. He rarely reciprocates that kind of effort even though I make sure to tell him how much I appreciate it on the rare occasion he does for me.
On the flip side of course I’ve seen the social media trend “if he wanted to he would” and I’m not one to fall into glamorizing social media trends – but it would be nice. I feel like I have done the part of talking about what would be nice to have reciprocated but I rarely see him follow through on those types of things. Rarely little things like that, rarely any intentional planned dates – if he does happen to be free on a weekend he will just look at me and say “well what do you want to do? I’ll do whatever” with no input – and I know I have sent him so many restaurants I want to try, told him about things I want to do, etc and he doesn’t plan things.
Am I in the wrong / expecting too much?